Found an article at http://www.anti-feminism.com/ (now deleted!) which counsels men to avoid marriage — or at least to avoid marrying a feminist, which the author deems nearly impossible when it comes to Western women:
“If you want to have children and value the security and love that marriage has the potential to offer then you will vastly lower the risks of marriage by seeking a non-Western woman … As I said before, looking for a wife is a game of numbers and opportunities; it’s just like fishing. Now, the river of the feminist-indoctrinated countries has a high percentage of fish that are poisonous to you, but the river of the traditional countries is largely stocked with healthy and delicious fish. Which river will you choose to fish in? I’m not a hater of Western women and I am not saying this because I believe Western women are evil to the core. The reason that ‘no’ must be considered an option for men thinking of marriage is that the lifestyles, culture and expectations of Western women are now such that its an uphill struggle to successfully marry one. Even if we totally destroyed feminism tomorrow, its effects would continue for years.”
How’s that for a little controversy? Before some of my readers begin hyperventilating, let’s first sit back and work up some compassion for this clearly embittered lover. He does not seem to be the type who wants an unthinking doormat for a wife, so we can rule out the Archie Bunker motive. Nor is he someone who is operating from strong racial motives of any kind. The fact of the matter is that virtually all American women are feminists, consciously or unconsciously, and feminism is the diabolical arch-enemy of men and marriage. The traditional Christian man has little chance of finding an American-born lady who would not chew him up and spit him out upon his first assertion of anything remotely resembling “headship”. Of those women who have courageously begun to accept a traditional view of marriage after a lifetime of feminist indoctrination, most retain deeply rooted feminist instincts that can do a lot of marital damage before they are finally put to rest. Take Dr. Laura, for instance. She talks the talk, but can you imagine being married to the woman? The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak …
In my own experience I have only known a few classes of feminine women or girls. First, there was my grandmother, my great aunt, and the old-line Protestant women of their acquaintance who carried themselves with a most elegant and attractive femininity. Sadly, they did not succeed in “passing the baton”. Second, there were a few virtuous Mormon girls in high school, alone in a tumultuous sea of dysfunction and promiscuity. Third, there were the Vietnamese refugees in college — graceful, kind, confident, and gloriously feminine. I married one of the best of them. Fourth, there were the devout women of Russian Orthodoxy and Tridentine Catholicism whose radiant femininity was nurtured in the shadow of the Blessed Virgin. These I encountered only at the end of a long journey.
The topic is important, because many of us will have sons of marriageable age in a few short years (if we don’t already). What advice shall we give them? How will they find wives? It isn’t really that Western men should look for non-Western wives, but that all men should seek non-feminist wives, and today it is likely that many of these will be foreign-born. Still, finding a wife with a non-Western upbringing isn’t enough. Contrary to the ridiculous opinions of some commentators, immigrants today assimilate faster than ever thanks to public education, corporate publishing and advertising, and the steady corrosive influence of our ubiquitous mass anti-culture. It is necessary to find a refuge from all of this in order to keep marriage safe from feminism.
It is true that the majority of today’s rootless young men, like the author of the article above, have very few options. But the sons of traditional Catholics should fare much better. In my opinion it is vitally important to belong to a traditional community that is large enough to produce a decent variety of potential spouses for one’s children. Arranged marriages should not be out of the question. If wives cannot be found there, don’t give up: send your boys to Thomas Aquinas or Christendom where their chances of meeting someone wholesome are pretty good. Many immigrant communities are also worth considering, whether Filipino or Lebanese or whatever, provided your sons can hustle their wives into an orthodox Catholic enclave somewhere fast before assimilation takes place. Unfortunately most immigrant groups tend to trust the schools and the media too much and don’t really provide a viable counter-culture. And then — some of you aren’t going to like this — there are the fundamentalist Protestants. Many of these sectarians have preserved a Christian sense of femininity within their families and have insulated their daughters from popular culture. Sometimes their daughters can be enticed to convert for love. Finally, single men shouldn’t rule out the possibility of finding a late-in-life convert who is serious about traditional marriage. With grace, all things are possible.
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I stayed in a loveless marriage for way too many years, she was emotionally abusive toward me, not to the kids. I stayed due to the state giving all to the female, me losing the kids and rights to them.
I pistol shoot as a hobby, I was leaving, during one of her “episodes”, and she decided I was not allowed to leave. In front of the kids, she went for the gun and it bounced out of the holster.
Thank got for the safety. At this point I walked her out of the house, stating she was a danger to the children, told her I was filing for divorce, taking the kids and the house. if she did not agree, I would have the kids testify in open court what they saw.
I filed divorce, closed all joint accounts, and when she said she was getting a lawyer, i asked her how she was paying. handed her a check for part of the joint account with a copy of the receipt. told her she is not hiring a lawyer with my money.
went to court, she did not want the kids to testify, i got custody. also the house was in a VA loan, they would not let her assume the mortgage she had to qualify, which she did not on her own income, so i got the house.
here is the way it needs to go. never ever get married. if you are and in a bad situation, rule number one,,,treat them like they are like a *unt. be mean. men usually walk out and say keep the house for the kids. i say, no way. walk her out, close the accounts, keep receipts, cut off all her access to the money.
good luck, i did not win, i just came out not losing. but never never again.
peace
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I can not control to post my comment, guys i have been with a cute girl for 10 yrs, it was my dream to get marry wt her, but in first few months i come to know that she had a “touch allergy” (lol) sex is far away not even a simple kiss or a hug, we kiss or hug sometimes onces in 6-8 months and my financial expenses were huge on her hotel n medicine etc. she had many boyfriends (just friends LJBF) but she tried her best to keep me away from other girls. beside that after first 2 yrs her nature n behavior dramatically changed and she become extremely abusive, she threatened me often that she will commit suicide. she was a bitch having a mask of very decent n virgin gal. i was attached wt her so i suffered a lot like hell for many many years. it was like a great emotional blackmail n turmoil…no sex, no love…only emotional blacking..n loosing money, wasting time ….but now everything has changed, HOW?
just like her touch allergy i developed “marriage allergy”, and its a 10 yrs love affair so in india its very difficult for her to get a hubby. i refused to marry her after 10yrs of love. she has lost her 70% beauty & she is now a ugly fat cow, i had a small love affair wt her lil sis just to teach her how bad i feel when she wonder wt other boys. and from last six months i’m enjoying 18-20 yr gals in dance bars in mumbai (bombay). i suffered a lot emotionally n financially but i’m happy that i teach her a lesson. now i’m happy, enjoying verity of girls in few bucks without attachment and emotional suffering. perhaps what i did wt her is not ethical but there is no way. i have suffered a huge emotional loss. i had great expectations from this relationship. unfortunately/fortunately it lead me to dance bars
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Marriage is not required to love. This fact alone is more than enough reason not to ever marry. I would never have attended college if a degree didn’t increase my chances of starting a successful career.
Documents are not needed to prove your experience or skill, although it helps. Marriage is not required to prove your love, and it certainly doesn’t help.
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Marriage? no Thanks
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Im sorry for my english.. but i would say my opinion about this topic..
The only certain way to avoid losing the house, children, money, cars, and
mental and physical health is not married.
Each strategy, action plan and various precautions, can be made as well, do
not solve two major problems related to marriage in a feminist society like
ours.
The first of these two main problems arises when you get married: your wife
from that moment, takes the knife by the handle.
The second problem is that in case of separation, in most cases is the man to
lose everythings.
Regarding the first problem, your girlfriend just became “wife” is
automatically invested by State laws with a great new power that earlier,
during the normal relationship, did not have.
It ‘s the power of using blackmail as a weapon in this Feminist State
society, that is threatening the separation with everything that goes with it
(the second problem).
All the grains of the first problem can manifest itself in countless ways. An
example: you have children, you want to send them to private school, your
wife, to public school. Discuss, argue, and do not come to a compromise. In
the evening, or night, your wife decides to revenge about you in a snake way:
she doesn’t make love with you, for days, weeks, sometimes even for mouths.
This weapon, we may name it “sexual blackmail”, she had it also before
marriage, but it was fair, since you could oppose the other weapons:
1) I leave you,
2) I go with another woman better than you,
3) I go to prostitutes,
etc.etc.
All these weapons, balancing the relactionship between men and women, now
doesn’t works anymore!, well, you still have them but you can potentially
backfire yourself!
if you leave it, go with another, go to prostitutes or else your wife could
use his new femminist State laws power, which did not had before, and invoke
the rules (female), asking for the separation and punish you with everything
that goes with it.
During the marriage your wife can do the good and the bad weather, i doesn’t
matter how much “land” you have in a marriage, keep in mind that she always
rule on the entire playing field, and this one of those situations where the
only way to don’t lose, is not to play.
Do not get married.. We can not and should not entrust our fate to the only
“good heart” of the woman you’re set, since for men are missing a number of
safeguards that make the marriage the equivalent of Russian roulette.
Once you become aware of this, we must consider the underlying problems, and
before you ask “is convenient for me to get married?” you Would be better to
ask yourself “why I want to get marry?”.
For believers, this needs may arise to make the sacrament of marriage. But
let me tell you.. does this sacrament make sense in a corrupted society,
where the marriage seems to have become an excuse to have joy in the church
for a day, have a good time for a week going “honeymoon in the Maldives”,
only to dissolve this “sacred link “when you wife decide it’s time to” break
free from the chains of marriage (but not from your bank account)?
Is this or not, for believers, a serious insult to the sacrament of marriage?
Just as in a church, used for black prayers and the adoration of the devil
should not celebrate prayers, so in a society corrupted by feminist cancer, a
church should not be used to clean the traditions that we have only in the
outer shell, but within inside is corrupted and decaying.
For non-believers, however, the issue is much simpler, and decide not to
marry takes a sense of independence from the increasingly oppressive rule
from this NAZIFEMMINIST State laws against men.
Let me ask you, Why give the State more freedom to enter right into our
bedrooms, giving them more tools in hand to punish us when it decide that
this is right? why let it be the judge of your sentimental life?
This power, which the NAZIFEMMINIST State laws has used and continues to use
to transfer money from the pockets of men in women’s pockets, and to widen
the freedom of all proportion to the detriment of women than men, now sees
its greatest expression in their Marriage.
The only solution is not to marry. If you want to live the experience of
married life, you can always experiment with cohabitation of longer or
shorter, always provided that they are not made more insidious and misleading
to equate cohabitation with marriage.
Something finally must be said very clearly: who buys a poison apple, knowing
it was poisoned, then do not expect any “solidarity” by his peers when the
lethal effect of the poison will start to be felt.
As a bottom line, let me tell you this: many old Wise Sage used to say:”Who
is the cause of his illness, cry himself”.
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If you truly love your sons, you will tell them not to get married. It just provides no benefit to them at this point.
Unless they are really poor and have no self confidence that is. If that is the case, they have nothing to lose anyway, so it makes no difference. But if you raised them correctly, that should not be the case.
To me it is absolutely ridiculous that feminists can claim marriage is oppressive to women and that they need men like a “fish needs a bicycle” but then turn around and try to pressure men into marriage. If feminists truly believed the garbage they spew then they would discourage men from marrying in the first place.
But they don’t. They’ve set up a system where marriage is just another method for them to benefit off of someone else while providing nothing in return. That is the real reason feminists want men to marry so badly. It isn’t because of love or anything like that, feminist culture doesn’t have that towards males.
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Should Men say No to Marriage
Greetings to all,
I am 52 and have been married for 5 years to a beautiful Colombian woman I met while traveling in South America. She is 19 years younger than me and their are no problems to be had. We also have a 4-yr old son who was born in Colombia and he is the joy of my life. Why? Because she is a beautiful woman who has not been poisoned by feminism. Let me be clear. I knew almost 20 years ago that I would NEVER marry and American woman for many reasons. My wife is a great mother who teaches my son, showers him with love (and me too!) and affection and is with him all day rather than working. I invested lots of time looking for a good Colombian woman. I dated girls in Cali who were gorgeous, hot, great in bed, but really weren’t marriage material. I then moved to a smaller city and was able to start meeting women with family values. If you are going to marry a latin woman, make sure she is from a smaller city of town. I have talked to many of my friends here in the U.S. about these things and they just don’t get it. They still go for American women. They also have been brainwashed by femninism thinking that if the woman doesn’t have everything 50/50 then she will be unhappy. Let me be clear again. American women will NEVER be liberated from the fact that they will always me measuring whether they are getting their 50%. My wife never measures that and is therefore liberated from the bonds of feminism. She is comfortable being submissive to a man who is loving, faithful and respectful (because most Colombian men are dogs) and knows his way through this jungle of life. This makes her feel secure and safe. I will be raising my son in Latin America because I want him to marry a latin woman who will make him happy too. If you don’t want children I still recommend foreign women. Good luck to you all.
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